You question what happened, why he’s doing this, and what you may have done to cause this sudden shift.
The most common questions we get involve some variation of a guy suddenly backing off and the girl going into a tizzy over it. Looking back, all those feelings of worry and confusion were a waste because the answer is surprisingly simple and applies to almost every situation.
You can invite them to open up, but you can’t badger them into it.
If your guy is having a hard time, be it from external sources like his job or he’s having some internal emotional issue, you have to give him the space to work through it on his own.
If he wants to talk to you about it, he’ll seek you out.
And if he does, make sure you listen to him, don’t use this as an opportunity to voice your opinions on the matter and try to solve it for him.
If you start to act needy, an alarm bell will instantly sound in his head warning him that he’s losing his freedom and he will instinctively pull away from you.
Maybe it happens out of the blue, maybe something sparks it, either way, it’s a miserable feeling, one that leaves you feeling powerless and painfully insecure.
This creates a vicious cycle of you pushing him, him pulling back, you pushing more, and on and on until he either distances himself from you entirely or the relationship continues with an underlying tension.
You can’t force someone to open up to you, especially when it comes to difficult emotional topics.
Work on recharging your batteries so that you can put positive juice into the relationship.
Putting pressure on a man is never a good strategy and will often drive him away. You’re Being Needy and He Feels Suffocated A man doesn’t have to be dealing with personal issues to feel the need to retreat.